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A podcast about texting and dating

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Welcome to Subtext!

Relationships are confusing, especially when they’re digital. What did she mean by putting a period? Why did he wait so long to respond? We’re here to talk about your toughest texting questions (and share a few stories of our own).

You can download the Subtext podcast on iTunes, Google Play, or BuzzSprout.

Hosted by Sarah Ellis and Michelle McSweeney, each episode focuses on an aspect of communication in a digital dating world. Here, you can find links to the research we mention in each episode.

Episodes

Episode 9: Wear your finest suit

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Natasha Aponte set up an elaborate date with dozens – maybe hundreds – of men. Were there warnings signs before the date? If so, how could these unsuspecting men have spotted them?

Video: Dozens Of Dudes Got Duped In Mass Tinder Date At Union Square A woman used Tinder to trick dozens of men into going on the same date

Beating the Tinder game. 800+ Matches. I’ll probably get banned for this… Boilerplate messages are about 75% as effective as customized ones

Bruch, E.E. and Newman, M.E.J., 2018. Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets.

Episode 8: Haha, So Insecure

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Jas is just looking for a guy who takes initiative. What’s with all this nervous laughter?

Provine, R. 1999. Laughter Punctuates Speech: Linguistic, Social and Gender Contexts of Laughter

McSweeney, M. 2018. The Pragmatics of Text Messaging.

Episode 7: DTF(orm a Monopoly)

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Anybody seen that colorful new ad campaign for OKCupid? It’s about more than it might seem.

Images from the OKC DTF Campaign

Match Group Brands

Episode 6: Just Listen to my Six Pack Abs

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People keep sending Philip photos out of nowhere—and no, we don’t mean photos of food or cats. Why so aggressive? And bonus…is it possible to hack your Tinder algorithm so you get better matches?

Timmermans, E. and De Caluwé, E. 2017. Development and validation of the Tinder Motives Scale (TMS) this article discusses the Tinder matching algorithm and motivations for use

Blackwell, C., Birnholtz, J., and Abbott, C. 2014. Seeing and being seen: Co-situation and impression formation using Grindr, a location-aware gay dating app.

Drouin, M. and Landgraff, C. Texting, sexting, and attachment in college students’ romantic relationships Author links open overlay panel.

Higgs, D. 1999. Queer Sites Gay Urban Histories Since 1600

Toma, C. L., Hancock, J. T. and Ellison, N. B.. “Separating fact from fiction: An examination of deceptive self-presentation in online dating profiles.”

Episode 5: Email’s Hidden Message

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Email: is it only for work or does it have a place in personal relationships? After a guy confronts Taylor over email, she’s left wondering if she should really take his accusations seriously.

WebMD on Borderline Personality Disorder

Bjørge, A. K. (2007). Power distance in English lingua franca email communication.

boyd, d. (2015). It’s Complicated.

McLennan, S. (2004). Guy, Guys, and Neutrality. Proceedings from the Annual Meeting of the Chicago Linguistic Society.

Episode 4: Is Facebook the new Tinder?

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It’s everyone’s favorite subject lately (for better or for worse)…Facebook. What happens when this digital giant takes on dating?

Constine, J. (2018, May 1). Facebook announces dating feature for meeting non-friends. Retrieved May 1, 2018.

Gatter, K., & Hodkinson, K. (2016). On the differences between TinderTM versus online dating agencies: Questioning a myth. An exploratory study. Cogent Psychology, 3(1), 1162414.

Granovetter, M. S. (1977). The Strength of Weak Ties. In S. Leinhardt (Ed.), Social Networks (pp. 347–367). Academic Press.

Smith, A., & Anderson, M. (2016, February 29). 5 facts about online dating. Retrieved May 1, 2018.

Episode 3: I’m 5’8” and other Truths

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Kevin’s chat with Leslie got off to a fairly…short start.

Basics of Articulatory Phonetics

Read, A. W., 1963. The First Stage in the History of “O. K.” American Speech, 38(1), 5–27.

Spradlin, Lauren and Taylor Jones, 2016. A Morphophonological Account of Totes Constructions in English. Presentation at 2016 Annual Meeting of the Linguistic Society of America in Washington DC

Episode 2: Heart Emojis on a First Date?

What’s the deal with heart emojis, anyway? Do they always convey affection? Are some more serious than others? Elizabeth had a Tinder date that was going well…until the heart emojis started coming her way.

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Stark and Crawford, 2015. The Conservatism of Emoji: Work, Affect, and Communication

Unicode Consortium, Full Emoji List, v11.0

Episode 1: Hypen-gate

Today we’re discussing a personal story that involves a bit of a punctuation crisis. Sarah’s roommate Hannah and friend Victoria are here to weigh in—is it weird to use hyphens when you’re texting someone new?

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Fischer and Garcia, 2015. Singles in America. Match.com

Vandergriff, 2013. Emotive communication online

Contact

Want to be a guest on the podcast? Email us at: subtextthepodcast@gmail.com or Tweet us @SubtextPod